Hi Shulgoth,
i'm not sure if i understand all you said, but i'll try to give you some answers :
First of all - a start with Lasius niger is a good idea.
The starter-set would be fine for them, but it seems thats missing a glide material for 'outbreaking protection' like fluid PTFE or parrafin oil or something.Important thing.Once you have a lot of workers they all will come out if you put the top cover away, to feed them or so , so you must have a protection against this.
To ninja a queen of an outliving ant colony should be .... hm neraly impossible.
Is it a big colony the queen will be some feet under and escape if you start to dig after her.
If its a small colony you could be lucky , but then - take all of them.
A queen that has started a colony will not life a long time without it.
The best would be to caught a single queen from a nuptial-flight.A queen thats ready to start a colony has no wings anymore then.
Just put her into a test-tube with an watertank ( seperated by cotton ) , put it in the dark and wait.She will not need a thing for some weeks - till the first workers come up.
Its up to you how you start.
I would prefer the second way, but i don't know when the flights are in the usa.But i would guess its similar to us.
Sooooo - the nest - easy -
fill the sand/loam mixture in the farm.
You should find loam in a building center ( hardware-store?), and sand....well - all around you?^^
Maybe you find a shop thats sell a mixture allready.
If not - a good mixture to dig is 3:1 sand:loam.
Water - DO THIS FIRST OFF ALL , if you use a sand/loam nestfarm.
Take a straw or two,close it with cotton ( on the top and on the bottom ) and put it in the farm.
At the bottom of the farm should be clay pellets or something to save some water.
[here will come a link with an picture to explain what i mean]
Not the best but it should make you understandNow you can fill in the sand/loam.
So you can humidification ( humid?) the nest,NOT irrigate ^^ . Just a little bit of water from time to time.
A good way to give them water to drink, is a small test tube closed with cotton and water in it.
The feeding
As i said you don't need to feed a fresh caught queen from a nupital flight , till the first workers come up.
A small colony need some small insects,water/honeywater/sugarwater, or sugar.
From the insects they will get the protein for the larva and from the sugar they get carbohydrate for the adults one ( easy said ).
Soooo that was how a start will work i guess.
I hope you can understand what i say,because my english isn't that good ^^' .
good luck and if you have some questions or open issues - keep asking

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